Field 1: Parenting children

1) Some people have a parent leave, and then are raised by a single parent, who is stressed out. The kid feels pain, being unloved. They're stuck in front of a TV or a smart phone instead of having a parent really be there for them. Or maybe they're forced to act in the role of a parent, maybe there's emotional incest.


1) a surrogate parent moves in, somebody who doesn't want to have kids themselves, but needs a place to stay and wants to help.
2) Or they are raised by an addict, and they only get fed one meal a day. And they learned terrible untrue things about themselves that make it really hard for them to interact with anyone else later in life. They feel pain, rage, maybe numbness.Child of addicts: An uncle or aunt or neighbor checks in on the kid every day, and lets them know that they are always welcome to come over and talk.
3) Basically everyone is forced to go to school, and to ignore their sexual energy, and so they never develop their supernormal abilities. They feel an impatience, a sense that they could be doing more with their life, that they have more untapped potential, and shame about their desires, their bodies, a sense that they have to take their body to the dog show rather than really acting in a way that feels best to it. Shame and frustration.Kids being forced to go to school in adolescence: just let the kid decide. Give them some information about having safe sex, but then let them decide whether they're going to pursue that interest or not.
4) Even if there are two parents, that's not nearly enough support for the kid, there's so much more resource that could be devoted to this most important goal, there could be a parent for the garden, there could be a parent for keeping all of the toxic kick out of the household, a parent for therapy and tending the relationship among all the other parents, a parent for teaching the kid what the kid wants to learn and time with their natural rhythms and interests, a parent who is an expert in building things, etc. Instead, you have one person working for money, and maybe one person staying home and both getting stunted in their growth. With two parents feeling stunted and isolated, the kid feels depressed, because the only model they have for adulthood are unhappy ones. Maybe they feel rage, at times, and at other times numbness.Two unhappy parents: a web-based learning course can be created: "giving birth to yourself" "be an example of a happy adult so your child can grow up happy", reparenting themselves. Discovering their passion and grieving the loss of a truly love-prosperous childhood.
5) .Vicarious:
6) Children never see how food is grown for the most part, and so they believe that they are dependent on money for survival, as most of the people around them will be happy to tell them, and depending on money places are in a position of depending on other human beings, on being acceptable to other human beings in someway. This makes the child feel devastated, insecure, disconnected from their own strength, and sovereignty, and creativity.
Grow a garden, ask the kid to come out and help or just hang out (if they make a mistake, don't yell or criticize, let them start learning from nature rather than from you)
Field 2: population balancing: problem: overpopulation/challenges in forming community
1) there's a problem related to childlessness, and that goes this way: responsible, ethical, thoughtful people, seeing all of the problems that children face when they come into the world, seeing all of the terrible challenges that future generations are gonna have to face because of the terrible decisions made by previous generations, make the supreme and magnanimous, self sacrificing choice of not having children. They may have read that the single worst thing you can do for the environment, in terms of the negative impact on it, is to have a child, and so then they have thought, "of course I would never do that." They're presented with an impossible ethical dilemma: either do the worst ethical thing they could possibly think of, on the one hand, or not reproduce at all. Within the two-parent system, they're simply is no solution. The "non-parent" feels "less than" in some way, feels deprived of the amazing chance to have the most miraculous experience that humans ever have, depressed. The nonparent feels lonely, too, as all of their friends begin to have children, and slip away. They feel guilty and anxious that they're betraying their parents and abandoning their ancestors too, not giving them grandchildren or a continuation of their line, a response to mortality and a connection with the generations that will live on.This person can move in with the person who's partner has left them, with the explicit intention of being there for the kid, not for sex or romance. Probably best if it's two women raising a kid, second-best if there are two persons who don't have a sexual attraction.
2) Then there's the problem of the people who try to create an intentional community, and raise children inside them, with all of the stresses of trying to create an intentional community in an extremely individualistic, violent, chaotic, and stressful society. In rare cases this works, but 95% of communities fail, within the first year or so, the ones that do succeed tend to have a lot of dysfunction and stress within them, partly owing to the fact of having to do battle with the outside world in an ongoing way, and partly because they are self selecting group of people who in someway want to escape from the mainstream and hold themselves superior to it. This is a recipe for echo chambers and groupthink. There can be exhausting meetings, indirect communications, exclusion of some people, a lot of racism in the form of ignorance and other subtle cultural elements, etc. Rarely do you have a group of people who are very balanced and mature, thoughtful, introverted, even, and focused on a goal, much larger than themselves who come together to make an intentional community.Articulate a clear mission of supporting the next generation rather than solipsistic quality of life, and create a sense of connectedness to the child in the community as a whole. Specifically, pass the baby around the cricle of everyone gathered a few days after birth, to every member of the community,, and make time for this. Not requiring people to attend coercively, but giving them a labor credit if they do, or maybe a half credit, and communicating clearly to the community what the intention of this is: to give at least one child a better childhood than anyone has ever had up till now, in some way redeeming the years the locust has eaten.
3) And even rarer is there a group of people who already lived geographically close together. Many of these intentional communities are worn down by the fact that a member has a parent become suddenly ill far away, and needs to travel to see them, or to become their caretaker, and suddenly the fabric of the whole community is undermined to an unsustainable degree. Sometimes in these communities, those children who appear wants to give birth to never do get born at all, sometimes they're born in the community, and then the parents leave the community at a peak of hostility and stress. There are many children who grew up in these communities who want to leave that community, and live as individualistically as possible, rebelling against their parents.3) a contract that everyone signs saying they pledge to be a co-parent for that child for life.
4) Often times, the chauvinism, insecurities, and unexamined mental health defects of the people in the community amount to more of a detraction from the children's quality of life than an asset. I'm told by one long-term communard that children love growing up in communities, but teenagers hate being in them and nearly always leave if they possibly can. Something isn't working. The parents feel sadness that they have failed.4) therapy for the communards incentivized by reminders that you are passing on everything to your child
5) Lastly, the purpose of the community generally isn't really supporting children, it's proving somebody's theory (Skinner, the Ganas guy, even Vic to a degree), and most of the people they aren't really focused on the good of the community as a whole. A lot of the people who joined Twin Oaks found it through OkCupid. They're right out of college, and looking at how scary the real world is, they're trying to escape, and they are users, not givers. They aren't enrolled in a mission of actually supporting children to their full potential. They haven't repaired their own childhoods--how could they? There's a real lack of focus here. And by supporting children to their full potential, I really mean being there most of all, being far more than doing, and being takes a lot more vulnerability and surrender than is comfortable for most Americans. These children feel, in adolescence, trapped, frustrated, superior to their stupid parents, and inadequate in comparison to the images of normal people they see from the media.5) ask the children what they want the community to be for them when they grow up, so they get more of a voice in the direction of the community, instead of the finances, worries, and relationship dramas.
field 3: tv writing/creating
1) writers are constantly rejected or even give up on trying to find work since money rules. writers feel frustrated, silenced, depressed1) make a show about a widely-relavant topic like childhood so that it can attract an abundant budget and inspire commitment from anyone who is a parent, aunt, or uncle
2) writing in a committee destroys all the individuality and art; writers feel used, silenced, depressed, guilty at selling out2) one writer, one character: each writer gets complete autonomous control of one character, and the writers "duke it out" through their characters
3) writing jobs are being replaced by AI; writers feel worried, threatened, taken for granted, and low self-esteem ("if a robot can do my job this convincingly, I must never have been all that valuable as a living human of dignity to begin with")3) write better, more idiosyncratic, wierder
4) writing is disembodied, removed from the embodied art of acting: writing is static on a page, ambiguous, unresponsive to the present moments' needs; writers and actors feel trapped, disconnected, embarrassed at hollowness4) "devised" script, semi-improvized (a la Curb Your Enthusiasm). the general parameters of the scene are set, then the actors can rail against them, accept them, or some mix of the two.
5) meaningful shows are "impossible" to sell, so you have to write schlock; writers feel helpless, blocked, used, at odds with themselves if they sell out and undervalued and undervalidated, depressed if they choose to be "starving artists"5) write about a universally recognizable topic like family (see 8 sequels of Fast and Furious), but do it well. More realistically, as the viewer will recognize their own family dysfunction/redemption thereof from their own lived experience. Address the impending crisis that all sense is coming but have used vapid tv to distract from. Make them cry somehow from page one.

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